“If you’re looking for a solid, long-term relationship-type, avoid pictures of yourself drinking excessively or making kissy faces at the camera,” Robinson says. These pix dictate how potential dates view you, so be proactive and decide what image you want to project. Give a critical eye to the potential profile shots, and think about the message they’re sending. Any hint of sad trombone will send quality dates running.” Choose photos strategically “Some people conflate melancholy and depth. “If you’re just getting over a bad break-up, or you’re feeling really cynical about your ability to find a good woman, or you’re in a depressed place in general, keep all of those feelings out of your profile,” she cautions. Miss Information tells us it can be truly mindboggling what red flags people slip into their profiles. You shoot yourself in the foot immediately.” NEXT: What could possibly be worse than lying? > TMI alert! Don’t overshare It’s not about the inch or two it’s a sense that you’re insecure enough to be lying.
“It may be a superficial detail, but if/when your date notices you fudged the numbers, she’ll wonder what else you sugarcoated. “Let’s say you’re five-foot-ten, but you decide you’ll seem hotter if you say you’re six-foot-one,” Robinson says. Buy me a beer, and I’ll tell you more.’ Something like that gives a date plenty to want to talk to you about-plus you sound like an active, interesting person, not just a list of gerunds.” Don’t lieĭon’t stretch the truth, even on minor details. It was a fascinating anthropological experiment. “ ‘Last summer, I went surfing at the Jersey Shore nearly every day with my dog Rufus. What’s your favorite thing about surfing?’ Blech-that conversation is a total wipeout.” A better alternative, she explains, is telling stories. If you saw a list like this on a cute girl’s profile, how would you possibly respond? ‘I also like surfing. “Put yourself into a potential date’s shoes on this one. I like surfing, reading, swimming, jogging, and cooking. Instead of saying, ‘I’m witty,’” Robinson suggests, “say, ‘I’m one part Ricky Gervais, one part Jon Stewart, and a soupcon of Fred Flintstone.’ That paints a more vivid picture.” Avoid lists. Even high-strung people often think they’re ‘laid-back.’ Find something more descriptive.” Other common terms to be avoided: “cool,” “awesome,” “funny.” “Nearly everyone ‘loves to laugh’ and ‘enjoys fun.’ None of that sets you apart. “‘I’m a laid-back, easygoing guy…’ Such terms are practically meaningless. Vague adjectives signal “dull” and appear in far too many profiles, Robinson warns. NEXT: “Cool” guys finish last > Don’t hang yourself with a dull rote We’ve tapped ’s dating columnist Caitlin Robinson, AKA Miss Information, to offer some tips and tricks to those of you prepping to post your profile. While many of said online matchmaking entities equate “attraction” with a mathematical equation, Nerve Dating (an off-shoot of the sex/dating/culture site, ), has incorporated social media conventions into their platform that allow soulmate searchers to create connections via interactive conversations, rather than simply writing essays, checking off endless lists, and hoping for the best. There are myriad of dating sites on which you can cast your line to do a little love fishing. For that, you need to combine persuasive language with the kind of images that makes your profile pop rather than flop, which, as many have learned from experience, isn’t as easy as it sounds. The trick for you as “Boy” to get the biggest bang for your buck is to optimize your pitch so it will best appeal to Girl’s brain with content that directly tags her where Cupid lives. Bottom line: a dating profile-your first impression-is “sell copy,” and you’re the product being marketed. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Maybe Boy and Girl meet-or maybe they don’t, and if they do, do Boy and Girl live up to their profiles and live happily ever after? It Had to Be You Once it was: “Boy meets Girl,” and, depending on circumstance, “Boy gets (or does not get) Girl.” Now, it’s Boy posts profile. Combining the two in an online dating scenario can complicate the delicate dance even further. That’s because love, like the Internet, has a lingo and etiquette all its own. Yet, when it comes to online matters of the heart, finding “the one” often remains elusive.
Whether you’re hankering after a pistol grip for that vintage Hasselblad single reflex camera, or want to learn all the lyrics to R.E.M.’s “It’s the End of the World as We Know it,” the World Wide Web has made tracking down and securing even the most obscure objects your heart desires a lot easier.
If the Internet is good for anything-and, actually, it’s good for lots of things-it’s good for finding a needle in a haystack.
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